What if there’s nothing to heal? No, wait, stay with me. All your life you have been taught (and shown on pornography) that sex means hard penis entering vagina. If you are someone who was conditioned as a man, you are very likely to have internalized *so many* messages around your masculinity being intrinsically tied …
As a member of a Native American tribe in the United States, I have spent a great deal of time thinking, reflecting and considering various opinions on cultural appropriation. I think there are layers, which I will explain through personal stories. I think there is extremism on both sides. On one end of the spectrum …
The brilliance and clarity of sunlight cannot be dimmed by aeons of darkness; likewise, the radiance of the mind’s essential nature cannot be obscured by aeons of delusion. The empty house that has stood in darkness for milennia is illuminated instantly by a single lamp; likewise, an instant’s realization of the mind’s clear light eradicates …
In our world as Somatic Sex Educators & Sexological Bodyworkers, the body is the most important – and the most concrete – connection we hold to ourselves. We don’t see the body as a static object. We understand that the body is much more than merely a skin suit that holds our essential Self. Rather, …
When it comes to our sexuality, we often get so caught up in our end goal that we don’t stop to consider (and maybe even savor?) the process that gets us to that goal. It’s always about getting to orgasm, never about savoring arousal. It’s always about getting a big, firm erection; never about savoring …
Have Trauma? Let’s Work Through It. But First, Stay Within Your Personal Learning Zone Read More »
As many of you know, I’m currently enrolled in my school The Institute for the Study of Somatic Sex Education and I recently completed the Anal Mapping & Massage unit. And wow, the learning has been rich. One of my assignments in this unit was to engage in the practice of doing external anal massage …
We all have stories about our formative years and our first experiences in masturbating, or self-pleasuring. Some of those stories are hilarious, others are colored with shame and embarrassment. For those of us who were “caught in the act” by a member of our family – that family’s response ranges from the embarrassed hasty escape …
Mindful erotic practice: the “why” and “how” of doing it Read More »
The various experiential learning techniques provided by Somatic Sex Educators (SSEs) can help our students engage in honest and respectful dialogue with their nervous systems, allowing the physical and emotional responses that usually happen to them to be brought out into mindful awareness, and thusly, transformed.
As humans, we fluctuate widely between various states: love/fear, excitement/relaxation, arousal/happiness, reverence/bliss – and all of these have biochemical and physiological components that can be regulated with training and conscious practice over time.