Have you ever experienced physical symptoms — pain, spasms, tension — that no one can quite explain? Maybe you’ve done all the right things. You’ve seen the specialists, tried the treatments, taken the medications. And yet… something in your body still says, “I’m not okay.” You’re not alone. And you’re not broken. The Unspoken Language […]
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What if there’s nothing to heal? No, wait, stay with me. All your life you have been taught (and shown on pornography) that sex means hard penis entering vagina. If you are someone who was conditioned as a man, you are very likely to have internalized *so many* messages around your masculinity being intrinsically tied
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As a member of a Native American tribe in the United States, I have spent a great deal of time thinking, reflecting and considering various opinions on cultural appropriation. I think there are layers, which I will explain through personal stories. I think there is extremism on both sides. On one end of the spectrum
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The brilliance and clarity of sunlight cannot be dimmed by aeons of darkness; likewise, the radiance of the mind’s essential nature cannot be obscured by aeons of delusion. The empty house that has stood in darkness for milennia is illuminated instantly by a single lamp; likewise, an instant’s realization of the mind’s clear light eradicates
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In our world as Somatic Sex Educators & Sexological Bodyworkers, the body is the most important – and the most concrete – connection we hold to ourselves. We don’t see the body as a static object. We understand that the body is much more than merely a skin suit that holds our essential Self. Rather,
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When it comes to our sexuality, we often get so caught up in our end goal that we don’t stop to consider (and maybe even savor?) the process that gets us to that goal. It’s always about getting to orgasm, never about savoring arousal. It’s always about getting a big, firm erection; never about savoring
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As many of you know, I’m currently enrolled in my school The Institute for the Study of Somatic Sex Education and I recently completed the Anal Mapping & Massage unit. And wow, the learning has been rich. One of my assignments in this unit was to engage in the practice of doing external anal massage
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We all have stories about our formative years and our first experiences in masturbating, or self-pleasuring. Some of those stories are hilarious, others are colored with shame and embarrassment. For those of us who were “caught in the act” by a member of our family – that family’s response ranges from the embarrassed hasty escape
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As Somatic Sex Educators (SSEs), we teach through body-based experiences that are designed to awaken, nourish and deepen our awareness of ourselves as sexual and sensual beings. We teach people how to inhabit their bodies and experience a felt sense of safety within their body, first and foremost. Oftentimes for the first time in their lives.
When we teach, we do so in ways that assist our students in developing deep presence within their own body, learning to “speak its language” in the form of somatic awareness and its varied dialects of sensation, breath, movement, emotional attunement, vocal toning, and image. Over time (as this truly is a process like learning a language – fluency comes from consistent practice again and again) this allows them to open to the interior awareness that is necessary and – in my experience – the most effective way I have found to parse who am I (both sexually and otherwise) vs. who have I been conditioned to be?
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